Principle #5 – How To Pinpoint What You Want

Limitless Freedom Method

You’re here today because most likely you’re living your less-than-best life. And that’s okay, because we can fix that. 

I have developed a methodology called the Limitless Freedom Method.

The main goal of the Limitless Freedom Method is to help you reconnect to your inner-self so that you can pinpoint exactly what you want and create the right mindset to manifest your dreams.

This is a revolutionary way to experience freedom in the most spectacular kind of way.

Within this methodology is 10 easy-to-apply principles. Today we’re going to go over Principle #5, How To Pinpoint What You Want.

When You’ve Lost Your Way

Let me guess: Your life, per your Instagram filter, makes it seem like you have everything figured out…you’re living the dream, you have the perfect family, and the (toilet paper stash LOL). You’re SUPERWOMAN…

Annndddd……You’re exhausted. Sound about right?

• In these anxious times, you’re tired of doing what you think is expected of you rather than doing what YOU REALLY WANT in life.
• You feel like you’ve put others needs before your own so much so that you’re not even sure how to honor your own needs.
• You want more from your life but you aren’t quite sure what “more” really looks like.

If this resonates with you, I need you to hit the pause button so that you can make some changes to better enrich your life.

PinPoint What You Really Want

The first step is to pinpoint what you REALLY want and I’ve created a super handy tool, that I call The 5-P’s Framework, that will help you rediscover your greatest desires.

When you pinpoint exactly what you want, you can create a life around what you want and experience freedom in the most spectacular kind of way!

How’s that sound? Let’s dive into this.

The Back Story

Before we get into The 5-P’s Framework, I need to share my backstory so that you can see this framework in action.

I’d like to acknowledge that I know it’s a privilege to be able to stay home with my kids and to be able to make these kind of decisions for myself and my family. I’m using this example because it’s part of my history and I think it helps to explain how the 5P’s Framework works for ALL situations.

This will help you understand how the framework works and show you how you can implement it into your life.

My Backstory Example: . Before my husband and I got married, we spoke about our expectations and communicated what we each wanted for our future.

One of my husbands wants was when we had children, he wanted our children to have their mother home for the first five years of their lives. I grew up with a mom in the home while we were young and really appreciated my upbringing. Without thoroughly thinking this through, I agreed to this request.

Fast forward five years and we had 3 beautiful girls and we were in the thick of parenting. We sold our business (a successful restaurant) and I stayed home with the girls.

Although I agreed to staying home with our girls, It didn’t take long for me to become resentful towards my husband for being able to leave the house and do something other than caring for our 3 children under the age of two.

I missed owning my own business, I missed socializing with adults but I also believed strongly in following through with commitments, so I threw myself into being the best Mama that I could possibly be.

As I explained in Principle #1, the day came when ALL of my kids were in elementary school for the first time.  I dropped them off, came home to a quiet house and poured myself a cup of coffee and wondered now what?

And then I started to think, well, who am I? You know, I’ve been so busy being there for my girls that I don’t even know what “more” looks like for me.

What do I want? What do I want to do for the next 15 years or even better, for the rest of my life?

So many of us have lost sight of what it is that we really want or even worse how to even go about rediscovering what it is we want for our lives.

I’ve got a secret that I’m going to share with you. Are you ready? Here it is…

What you really want usually falls within your struggles.

Once you understand that, you can apply The 5-P’s Framework. Let me show you how this works.

The 5-P’s Framework

Take a look at the image above this. I’ve created this simple framework (with an example) to help you understand how to pinpoint exactly what you want.

The 5 P’s Framework is as follows: Pushbacks, possibilities, preferences, pinpoints and practice.

Lets take a look.

Step #1 Pushback – Somewhere in your life there’s a sense of resistance, resentment, discomfort. Lean into that. The more specific you are with what upsets you, and why, the clearer you can make your desires.

Example:
 My biggest source of resentment was with myself and my husband. I appreciated that he had the means to support our family but I resented that he could go out to work and advance his career and communicate with others outside of our family unit. Although I loved staying home with my girls, I still had resentment towards myself because I gave up a thriving career with little thought. Why did this upset me so much? I was a career oriented woman who was going places with my business and I felt I had to give it up to pursue starting a family.

Step #2 Possibilities – Take your strongest pushbacks and imagine the ways it might change. Think big, let your imagination run wild. As Arthur C. Clark wrote, “The only way of discovering the limits of the possible is to venture a little way past them into the impossible.”

Example: What if I went back to work again. What if it was my turn to advance my career. What if I could connect with other like-minded women all over the world. What if I could start writing. What if I could work and still be there for my family. 

Step #3 Preferences – Tap into the possibilities that leave you feeling intrigued and curious. These are your preferences. Lead them to your consciousness. Allow them to be. Now formulate a vague impression and allow more specificity to form. Bring it into focus.

Example: I could start my own business.  I did it with my restaurant, I’m an entrepreneur at heart… could I possibly start all over again? How could I do this with a busy family. What am I passionate about?  I enjoy health, more specifically holistic health. I enjoy cooking and creating new recipes. I enjoy writing.  I enjoy networking with like-minded women. 

Step #4 Pinpoints – Allow yourself to hold onto your preferences until you see what bothers you and what you’d prefer to see instead. Think of a solution you’d like and ask yourself, What would be even better? Take your answer and ask yourself again, What would be even better than that? Repeat until you have Pinpoint clarity.

Example: I know what I am passionate about, but I don't want to work outside of the home. I still want to be there for my girls when they get home from school.  I want a job where I can work on my terms.  I want a job where I can be creative.  I want a job that helps me fulfill my life-long dream of becoming a writer.  I want a job that gives me a platform to write about my passions and more importantly, allows me to be my own boss so that I can still be there for my family. 

Step #5 Practice – As with anything, the more you practice the better you’ll get. Practice the 5-P’s Framework and get crystal clear on exactly what it is that you want.

Example: After doing the work and pinpointing exactly what I wanted I was able to start my own business from the privacy of my own home in 2011. That business is the blog you're reading now.  Whole Lifestyle Nutrition is the platform where I've been able to serve over 30 million people (and counting) to live a healthier lifestyle. It's a place where I've been able to network and connect with other bloggers from around the world.  It's a place where I've created recipes and healthy living tips.  It's the platform that brought a publishing company knocking on my door to ask me if I'd like to write and traditionally publish my first book. It's a job that I created for myself that helps support our family and allows me to still be there for my girls when they get home from school.  It's the best job I could have ever imagined!

So that is the 5 P’s Framework. Pushbacks, possibilities, preferences, pinpoints and practice.

You can use this principle for major life events or even small everyday tasks, it’s that versatile.

Let me know if you have any questions in the comments below. I think you’ll really be surprised how amazing this framework works.

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See You Next Week!

That’s it! See you next week for Principle #6 – How To Ask For What You Want. And guess what…you don’t even have to be pushy or demanding to increase your chances of getting it.